Got a crush on that girl from your work, and want to know how to make her like you?
Going on a date and want to turn the tables, so she’s the one who is nervous?
Here’s four sneaky but effective tips on how to manipulate women so that they feel strong attraction towards you:
1. Be Seen In The Company Of Attractive Women
Women are attracted to high value men. I don’t mean rich men, I mean men of high sexual market value. And in a woman’s eyes, you must be high value if other women want you.
Take the scenario where you enter a bar one evening, and there is a group of attractive girls sitting across the other side of the room. Imagine the first impression you make on them walking in by yourself.
Now compare that with the first impression you make when you roll in with a couple of attractive girls on your arm, who are smiling and laughing at your jokes… BIG difference in attraction level from the girls immediately, without you even having spoken a word to them.
So start making friends with lots of girls – particularly attractive ones. And I really do mean just friends. Take them out with you. Buy them drinks if they need a little extra persuading. An attractive girl who really is just a good friend will usually jump at the chance to come out with you if you’re buying and she knows you’re not trying to get into her pants.
Say hello to girls when you are out and about too – with the real intention of just being friends with them. This prompts other girls in the room to see you as “preselected” – i.e. desired by other women, and therefore worth chasing.
2. Use A Female Friend To Generate Competitive Anxiety
Women respond positively to competitive anxiety – the feeling they get where they think there’s a chance they may lose you to another girl. This perceived risk of loss increases her attraction towards you.
To this end, it can be useful to use other girls to your advantage. If you have a good female friend who is “on your side” – i.e. who is willing to help you out with your dating efforts, then she can be carefully “introduced” into the picture later on in the process (once you have built some attraction) to induce some competitive anxiety in the girl you are targeting.
I’m not suggesting you actually pretend to hook up with this female friend, that would be going too far and would backfire. But just have that friend come over to say hi and flirt with you. Your target girl will wonder who she is, and whether you are interested in her, and her competitive anxiety will build, increasing her attraction for you.
A lot of guys are scared of doing this, because they think their target girl would be put off. But the result is almost always one of increased attraction, and even mild possessive behavior on the part of your target (which is a good sign).
Again, like all attraction building techniques, the key to generating competitive anxiety is to make sure you do NOT appear to be deliberately doing it to impress her or make her jealous, as this will actually damage your chances.
3. Arrange “Drive-By” Status Boosts
Men who have high social status are more attractive than men with lower social status. But even if you have very high social status and you’re extremely popular, a girl who you have only just met will not know this.
It’s therefore a good idea to have “drive-by” displays of high status happen during an interaction with a woman (e.g. on a date) so that she gets glimpses of your high status (or at least your perceived high status).
Make friends with barmen, doormen, staff and locals in your favorite bars, pubs, coffee shops and restaurants in your city – buy them drinks or just generally be friendly with them. When you arrive with your date and these people clearly know and like you, your perceived status will be raised. Also try arranging for your friends to swing by “randomly” and being really pleased to see you, to give you a drive-by status boost.
Status is all relative, so arrange your dates so that you go to places where you appear high-status relative to the other people there. A date in a smaller bar where the staff know and like you is a much better idea than taking her to a super-exclusive club where you’ll be comparatively very low status to all the high-rollers and celebrities there. This will be especially crucial when dealing with women who are 9s and 10s.
4. Hint At Tales Of Adventure & Excitement
And finally, let’s look at how to manipulate women by telling stories that hint at your high social status.
In any conversation with your target girl – and particularly during the first couple of interactions – you can start hinting at exciting tales about adventures from your past. Talk very briefly about foreign countries where you travelled. Make a half-remark about an adventure where you were the leader of a group, or a gig where you played to a huge crowd.
Anything that raises your status is good – and there’s no harm in a little embellishment. Preferably, also drop in the odd story that casually mentions previous (preferably exotic) girlfriends. This helps not only display your high status, but also that you are a pre-selected man.
However – and here’s the key – it is crucial to hint at these stories in a very subtle and casual way. It MUST NOT look like you’re doing these things deliberately to impress her, because this will be seen as approval-seeking.
Looking like you’re bragging will kill attraction very quickly. So adopt the mindset that you’re just very mentioning them very casually in passing, and that it’s no big deal.
Of course, these tips on how to manipulate women are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to making girls want you… The Attraction Playbook contains 70+ pages of attraction-building tactics most men will never know.
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