When I was first learning how to mack on girls, I quickly discovered just how powerful it was to ‘turn the tables’ on women, and use their own game against them.
You see, women with high self-esteem will often try to subconsciously impose a background ‘frame’ on their dating interactions, which sets the context and the tone for those interactions.
A very common frame used by attractive girls goes something like this:
“I’m a good little princess, and I’m tired of horny men treating me like a piece of meat and just wanting me for sex. You are one of a large number men who want to sleep with me. I’m willing to give you a chance to impress me and win my affections, but you’ll have to prove yourself worthy.”
This frame ensures she has control over the interaction at all times, and that things happen “by the book” – i.e. if and when she so chooses.
A woman will often verbalize this frame in conversations with men – particularly when on a first or second date. E.g. they will say “I’m looking for a guy who treats me like a real person and respects my feelings.” Or they will say “Ughh I hate it when creepy guys hit on me when I’m trying to talk to my friends.”
These statements set her up in a position of dominance early on, and make you qualify yourself to her.
The good news? You can steal that frame and use it yourself before she has had a chance to use it.
You can’t really open an interaction with this (it would be too weird) but you can introduce it as a playful dynamic reasonably early on – and when you do so, it can be devastatingly effective.
Here’s how it works:
You verbalize the exact same things she would, but in reverse – before she has had the chance to do so. You are the poor little innocent prince being chased and harassed by all these horny women. You’ll give a girl a chance to impress you, but she’ll have to prove herself worthy, and show you she’s “not like all the rest”.
Make statements that imply that you’re the one doing the judging, not her. Joke about how she’s always clumsily hitting on you. Tell her that you’re a nice boy, and you’re tired of all these dirty girls hitting on you and treating you like a piece of meat. Tell her that you aren’t going to sleep with her tonight, even though she is ‘clearly trying to get into your pants’.
The key is to maintain a fun, slightly humorous vibe when doing all this. It’s not that you want her to take everything you’re saying completely seriously. The reason you’re doing it is because by pre-empting all her “frame control” maneuvers, you neutralize their power.
You’re subtly communicating to her that you’re not overawed by her beauty, you’re not intimidated by women, and you’re not going to buy into any of that ‘girls should be placed on a pedestal’ nonsense. (It can also be very funny and make both of you laugh, if you deliver it well…)
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Happy hunting,
Ryan
