When figuring out how to get a girl to want you, other girls would seem to be the obvious people to turn to for advice.
After all, who better to tell you how a woman’s mind works than a woman, right?
At some point, most men have therefore asked a woman – often a close female friend – what they’re looking for in a man.
Usually the response goes something like this: “I want a guy who makes me laugh, who is kind and honest, trustworthy, and who treats me well.”
Which is perfectly reasonable. Except that they’ve forgotten to tell you something very important…
What They’re Not Telling You…
You see, when women describe what they are looking for in a man, they presume a high level of attraction when making that description.
When a woman says she wants a guy who is kind and honest, trustworthy, and treats her well, she really does want this. (Everyone, male or female, wants to be treated well…) But she has also presumed that this kind, honest man she is describing is also a guy who she feels strong attraction for.
Kindness, humor, honesty and trustworthiness are indeed things that women would like in a man – but only in an attractive man.
Deep down, what women are really looking for in a man are men who have the “Attractive Traits” – things like confidence, composure, independence, mystery and intrigue, sexual awareness and high social status. “Good Guy Traits” like honesty and kindness are just the cherries on top, and have little impact on how much attraction they feel towards a man.
It isn’t that girls are deliberately lying about it, they often don’t realize it themselves. The truth is, there is a huge discrepancy between what women think they would be attracted to, and what they actually find attractive.
They may love the IDEA of a complimentary, sweet guy – but that isn’t the same thing as what actually turns them on. It’s not their fault – they are just biologically wired that way.
Stop being the kind of man that way women SAY they fall for. Stop being the kind of man that society and the mainstream media tells you is attractive to women.
Knowing how to get a girl to want you starts with understanding the sort of man that women actually fall for – one who is confident, composed, challenging, fun, high-status, independent, mysterious and sexually aware.
A Quick Note About Humor:
“A guy who makes me laugh” is one of the first things that most women put on their dating wish list, so it’s worth having a closer look at this.
My view on humor is this: Firstly, if you are able to make women laugh then you are helping display one of the Attractive Traits – namely being interesting & fun. The problem with humor is that if you lack all the other Attractive Traits and you’re only funny, then it won’t help you much. You’ll just be that funny goofy guy with whom they “just want to be friends”.
But when you DO display some of the other Attractive Traits – e.g. you are confident, assertive and sexually aware – then being funny as well can be a MASSIVE attraction booster.
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Happy hunting,
Ryan
