Want to know how to be an attractive man, so that women are naturally drawn to you?
Want to make girls desire you, without having to resort to cheesy pickup lines, or even having to approach them at all?
Here are 5 key things you can start doing right now to make yourself naturally more attractive to women:
1. Maintain Strong, Relaxed Body Language
They say that verbal communication is only around 30% of overall human communication. The other 70% is body language and other non-verbal cues. Your posture, your movements, your voice tone and what you choose to DO all matter more than what you actually SAY.
Strong, confident, relaxed body language is essential to get a girl to fancy you. Here’s what you should be doing:
Slow down all your movements – everything from your walking speed to how fast you pick up a glass. Maintain a strong, open, relaxed posture at all times – walking, standing, sitting. Keep your back straight, and your shoulders back level with your torso, not hunched forward.
Keep your hands down low – even when holding a drink. Avoid touching your face too much, and eliminate fidgeting or any other nervous ticks. Try to take up plenty of space when sitting or leaning. Sit with your legs apart, leaning back. Try draping one arm over the back of an adjacent chair.
Maintain plenty of eye contact when speaking to people, but without staring.
2. Control Your Voice Tone & Speaking Pace
Lower the pitch of your voice to make it a more manly sound – high squeaky voices are not attractive on men.
However, you should also make a point of using the full range of your voice when telling stories or describing something – be expressive.
One other thing to avoid is speaking too quickly – it demonstrates nervousness, and that you may be worried someone might interrupt. Again, relaxed and confident is the key.
3. Maintain Your Composure At All Times
You need to maintain your composure at all times. When bad things happen, or when you are confronted – emotionally or physically – you remain calm and collected.
It’s all about learning to control your emotions. I’m not saying you should be a robot – you shouldn’t be emotionally cold or insensitive. Nor am I saying that you should be oblivious to the outside world – you should be constantly aware of what’s going on around you.
But you need to be in full control of your outward emotional reactions to those things. Getting all worked up about small things is very unattractive.
4. Take The Lead and Be Decisive
Taking the lead with other people – be they men or women – is a very attractive trait in a man. And by the same token, you need to be decisive. We may not like having to be the one to make decisions – particularly tough decisions – but that is our job as men. Avoiding responsibility, being overly hesitant, letting other people lead all the time – all those things will reduce the attraction a woman feels for you.
Knowing what you want, and being assertive about getting it, is also attractive. I don’t mean being stubborn to the point of being a dick, and I’m not saying you should never compromise on anything. But you need to know exactly what you want, and you need to not be weak. There’s nothing less attractive to a woman than a man who is a pushover.
So if you’re heading out for dinner with a girl, be positively decisive about where to eat (“We’re going to this little Italian place, I think you’ll love it”). If she asks what the plan is for dinner and you reply “I don’t know – where would you like to go?” – that is unattractive.
Don’t be totally unreasonable about things. Don’t insist you go to a seafood restaurant if she’s allergic to fish. Don’t refuse to ever let her choose where to eat. But be firm regarding your wishes and desires, lead the interactions, and be decisive – particularly early on in the dating process.
Of course, this goes for your interactions with other people too, not just a girl you’re interested in. If you naturally take the lead ALL your interactions, and if you are generally decisive in life, then you will be more attractive to the women around. (And you might just find you have more success in life generally too…)
5. Be Interesting & Fun
You don’t need to be a combat zone journalist or a professional skydiver. You don’t need to be the funniest guy in the world. You don’t need to be wildly spontaneous all the time. But you must not be boring.
Being dull is a terrible attraction killer. Even if you’re assertive and composed, women will not be sexually interested in you if you are boring. Your interactions with women should engage their emotions – their time spent with you should be interesting and fun, and leave them wanting more.
Stop spending so much time watching TV and playing games online, and start picking up new, interesting hobbies. If you’re off doing interesting, fun things in your own time, you’ll naturally have interesting, fun things to talk about with girls.
And when you go somewhere with a girl (whether it’s a date or just hanging out), try to always do something that is unusual, fun and engaging – not the same old boring dinner dates and movies.
Of course, these things are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to sparking attraction in women.
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Happy hunting,
Ryan
